The life we live is so fast and so full of things to do that most people never really get to do all the things that they want and because of the way that our mind works we tend to spend so much of our time thinking about the things that we don’t want in our lives instead of the thing we do, we sometimes worry about the past or the future and all too often we let the past influence our future before it even happens, we let our minds run wild with the what if this happens, what if that doesn’t happen and it is never from a positive perspective, this kind of behavior can lead to anxiety and low self-esteem which will only make your life seem worse than it really is.
For example, you could take two people, one with a positive outlook on life and one who is negative then set them though the same events over a 24 hour period:- a mixture of fun and misfortune, after the event ask them about their experience, the negative person will only have seen what was bad about their day and have almost no recollection that fun things had happened to them, it’s almost as if the fun things did not happen at all, were as the positive person will make the best of any event and focus their thoughts on living in the now and seeing the fun parts of the day and dismissing any unpleasant events from their life because they know that there is no value to worrying over spilt milk things happen in life – yet to miss chances to feel happy or have fun and not to live in the here and now it is an injustice to yourself as there is no way of undoing what has passed and letting the past affect your future will only give you more of the same, take responsibility for your life and your actions because when you do this you can begin to shape your life into more of what you do want and even when things don’t go as planned you will see them from a different perspective allowing you to make the best of any situation and recover much faster from any negative event that may happen to you.
So how could you start to change if you’re more inclined to feel or see the negative side of things?
Well the good news is you already have the skills and all that you need to do is change your behavior and if you’re anything like I was you will have got very good at looking for the negative in anything.
Now all you must do is start to look for the positive in every situation, it is the same skill that you have already been using – it’s just like switching the polarity.
So the next time something happens that you would have felt bad about in the past ask yourself how could I see this differently and what could I learn from this, how does feeling this way benefit me and what positive benefits can I gain from this experience? the more you do this the better you will get at it and the better you get the more your life will begin to change for the better, your mind will begin to look for more and more of positive events and begin to delete the negative events from your experience as if they did not happen at all and that can only make your life far better and for less stressful – is that not something that you deserve to feel for yourself?